How much is too much?*

Everybody have experienced people telling them what to do, how to do, what decisions to make etc. Right through childhood almost until death, this process goes on. First the parents, then friends join, and then relatives are always there to get started- anytime, anywhere. Sometimes even acquaintances don’t hesitate to compete with the before mentioned. At every stage of life we get the suggestions, advices and opinions and more often than not, majority of them are unwanted or not asked for.

The childhood concern can be understood, but once the child turns into an adult and starts using his/her own brain to reason, think and act effectively, is it not a wise thing to leave them to deal with their own things? Things which they actually want to handle themselves. Isn’t it good to learn to do things on our own and be proud of them later on if everything went well? And it’s ok to be wrong sometimes. I mean who is perfect? When something goes wrong and the person has the brains to think of it as an experience and learn from it should be let to do so without any interference. Saying weird things and showing sympathy which one doesn’t need and being phony doesn’t help anyway. It only adds to the annoyance. And almost everybody ends up saying “I told you so….” And this irritates to the hilt.

The people who understand us and are there with us whatsoever don’t need to be told that we need help. They, almost always, understand the situation and react accordingly and don’t act weird even if we don’t accept their help/suggestion.

And on second thoughts, if everybody started understanding enough to think all this, wouldn’t we start sharing a close bond? But come on a little common sense doesn’t hurt, does it?

Talking about parents, majority of us are ok with them asking us to do this and that, despite our disliking towards the act in question. There are and will be several other things worldwide that others expect from you despite you like it or not. But how far is this right?

Now come the friends, colleagues and relatives. They speak of anything and everything related to anybody and everybody. And whenever they meet you, either you are too fat or too lean. And you should take their suggestions to improve yourself on all fronts. They are going to suggest you anyway, you listen or not.

I might sound like I’m ranting. And yes, I AM ranting. Because this blog is all I have to vent out my anger and frustration as I don’t tend to give it out on others. No-one for that matter. What with all that stuff that says ‘you can be yourself with someone closer’? Well, obviously I don’t advocate it and hence don’t follow it. I cannot be rude and harsh to others just because I don’t want to be.

Now the actual point is, how far can I be able to take it without breaking down? How much is too much?

*Courtesy:http://myways-oflife.blogspot.com/ - Few lines/words edited